Welcome to the May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Role model
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have waxed poetic about how their parenting has inspired others, or how others have inspired them. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


It took me a long time to figure out what to say for this post. How does one brag about themselves?

From Keeshia

Before stumbling on OneStarryNight, I had some ideas about how I wanted to raise my future children. I’ve always been firm about breastfeeding and I’ve always been interested in homeschooling my kids. But after reading through OSN (and yes, I did go back to the very beginning to read all the posts), I was opened up to a whole new world of parenting I had never been exposed to.

Since then I’ve delved into natural parenting and have even reached out to Sarah to get links to other websites so that I could learn even more. All of Sarah’s stories have affected me in some way, shape or form, and have inspired me not only to learn about NP but also to adopt it.

What I love most of all is the fact that every line is genuine, and even when she thinks she’s rambling, she’s making a point and being honest. There are very few bloggers out there that have actually had an impact on my life and Sarah is my favorite of them.

From Kristi

Well let me just say that attachment parenting seems to come as second nature to you. If you ask me, you were born to be an attachment parent. I just can’t see you “mothering” your children any other way. Your boys are your world. Your blog posts and tweets have made that perfectly clear.

As far as breastfeeding goes, you are one of the first breastfeeding women I met on Twitter. I used to sit in my rocking chair in the nursery at night, feeding Alana and reading breastfeeding tweets on Twitter. I sat in the background for a while, like a fly on the wall until one day I built up the courage to open up about my breastfeeding struggles. I remember that you were so positive and supportive. Again, the fact that breastfeeding comes as second nature to you is just inspiring.

I think that your parenting style and desire to breastfeed your son until he self-weans is just absolutely beautiful. From the co-sleeping, baby wearing and breastfeeding…you’re just all kinds of awesome.

From [Keith]

You showed me the benefit of cloth diapering. That the baby rash from the hospital using their disposable diapers went away immediately once we started using cloth.

You’ve shown me how breastmilk is superior, like when your niece got us all sick, the baby merely slept a bit more that was it. He didn’t even get sick! All from the breastfeeding! That even how some of the doctors at the hospital because he was slow gaining, were pressuring to give him formula, you knew that he only needed breastmilk, that he was a sleepy baby, and here he is now, a massive healthy 7month old!

You showed me the research and ingredients behind vaccinations and how a lot of the time the big businesses/doctors out there take the good intention behind a vaccination into something that is purely motivated by money.

I don’t blame people for being mainstream, because people don’t know any better. They blindly follow their doctors’ opinion or don’t do their own research. They may not have the time/ability/DESIRE to learn more about their choices and how they impact their children.

How doctors can tell people that vaccinations are 100% perfect with no repercussions, that formula is “just as good” as breastmilk, KNOWING that’s not true, just to make a few dollars is crazy to me.

You’ve inspired me to do my own research because of how strongly you feel about attachment parenting. You’ve inspired me to appreciate and learn on a daily basis.

From Liz

I really do like how you use the sling for the baby. I’ve always wanted to do that when I had kids but you really don’t see it very much.

Also, until you I thought that the traditional method of sleeping, your child in a crib was really the only way. I never thought of keeping the baby in the bed with me at all. It makes sense. You want your baby to grow up comfortably. You can get to him faster if he’s crying if he’s next to you. I don’t get why people let their children cry without going to comfort them. Babies get stressed out from that, don’t they?

It seems more natural to keep your child close to you. I don’t know if this helps. I’ve had babies on my mind for awhile and I’ve been thinking about how i would do things. Definitely after hearing about these methods, I would really consider doing things the way you do.

Reading all of that, HEARING that I’ve made a difference in someone’s perceptions of parenting or how THEY parent their own children, makes everything worth it.

I’ve never wondered if my parenting choices were not “right” or felt the need to defend them. I’ve never made excuses for breastfeeding my boys ANYWHERE or covered them or hid in a bathroom. I’ve even gone so far as to BRAG about how much sleep I get just by co-sleeping (with the exception of the teething phase every other month LOL)!

I will freely admit, knowing that when it comes to the “offline” world, I do feel a bit like an outcast. All the people I grew up with in high school feeding formula to their children, getting elective c-sections, putting down breastfeeding momma’s (gods forbid if you nurse in public, they WILL condemn you!), CIO, and more that I tend to disagree with.

Or how my own twin sister is the “typical” mainstream mom. Must sleep on schedule, vaccinate on schedule, eat on schedule, wean from formula on schedule. Which garners more support from our family because she is doing things the “normal” way.

I am far from perfect. I yell more than I would like (I’ve always been loud) and I wish I had an OUNCE of organizational skill, and I am trying daily to get out of the house more.

I suppose at the end of the day I just want everyone to know they don’t have to do what their doctor or family member is pressuring them to do. I want to BE there for everyone in some degree. That I am ALWAYS available for someone to talk to.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants!

  • Woman Seeking Inspiration
    Seeking Mother’s struggles and joys to find her own path in motherhood have inspired others to her surprise!
    (@seekingmother )
  • Paving the Way
    Jessica at This is Worthwhile makes a conscious effort every day to be a role model.
    (@tisworthwhile )
  • No Rules Without Reason
    The Recovering Procrastinator wants to inspire her husband to discipline their children gently.
  • Creating a Culture of Positive Parenting Role Models
    Michelle at The Parent Vortex shows parents at the playground how to do a front wrap cross carry and tells nurses about her successful home births, as a way of modeling natural parenting in public.
  • Making A Difference for Mamas
    Shana at Tales of Minor Interest took an embarrassing pumping incident at work and turned it into an opportunity for all the employees who breastfeed.
  • Paying it Forward
    Amber at Strocel.com inspires new (and often scared) mamas with these simple words: “It will be OK.”
  • A SAHD’s View on Parenting Role Models
    Chris at Stay At Home Dad in Lansing doesn’t have many role models as a SAHD
    but hopes to be one to his daughter.
  • Am I a Role Model? A Review
    Deb at Science@home brings attachment parenting out of the baby age and shows how it applies (with science fun!) to parenting through all of childhood.
  • Say Something Good
    Arwyn at Raising My Boychick reminds women that it is within our right to be proud of ourselves without apology.
  • Try, Try Again
    Thomasin at Propson Palingenesis wants to inspire like the Little Engine that Could.
  • I’m a Parenting Inspiration, Who Knew?
    Sarah at OneStarryNight has received several beautiful comments about just what an inspiration she has been, if not in real life then definitely online.
  • That Little Thing
    NavelgazingBajan at Navelgazing demonstrates the ripple effect, one status update at a time.
  • How Has Your Day Been?
    mrs green @ littlegreenblog inspired her friend to be an active listener for her children.
  • No, Thank You!
    If you are reading Maman A Droit’s post, you’ve probably inspired her.
  • My Top 3 Natural Parenting Principles
    Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now describes how her family’s natural and Montessori principles inspired others.
  • Natural Parenting Felt Natural
    Sheryl at Little Snowflakes didn’t plan on natural parenting
    but her son led her there.
  • Rest. Is it even possible?
    Janet at where birth and feminism intersect has found that even role models need rest
    and that there are ways to fit it into everyday parenting life.
  • May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Role model
    Lauren at Hobo Mama was the fortunate recipient of a seed of inspiration, and has been privileged to plant some of those seeds herself, though she didn’t know it at the time.
  • crunchspiration
    the grumbles at grumbles and grunts wants to inspire others to parent from their heart.
  • No Extra Inspiration Required
    Zoey at Good Goog doesn’t think she inspires anyone and wasn’t inspired by anyone in return
    except by her daughter.
  • Upstream Parenting
    Luschka at Diary of a First Child blogs for that one mother in one hundred who will find her words helpful.
  • Parenting Advice for the Girl from Outer Space
    If Mommy Soup at Cream of Mommy Soup could give one piece of inspirational advice to new parents, it would be to parent with kindness.
  • Natural Parenting Carnival
    Role Model

    Sarah at Consider Eden feels the pressure at trying
    and failing
    to live up to her role models.
  • May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Role Model
    Dionna at Code Name: Mama encourages natural parenting mamas to take joy in the fact that they are touching lives and making a difference to children every day.
  • Inspiration Goes Both Ways
    Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite! is flustered that people consider her a breastfeeding role model
    but the lovely comments she’s received prove it’s so.
  • My Seven
    Danielle at born.in.japan has identified seven role models in her life who brought her to natural parenting. Who are your seven?
  • A Quiet Example
    Alison at BluebirdMama was one of the first parents in her group of friends
    and has come to see almost all those friends follow in her natural birthing footsteps, whether intentionally or not.
  • Gentle Discipline Warrior
    Paige at Baby Dust Diaries has inspired a gentle discipline movement
    join her!
  • Change The World… One Parent At A Time
    Mamapoekie is more comfortable inspiring parents online than she is in real life.
  • Inspirational Parenting
    pchanner at A Mom’s Fresh Start has intentionally tried to be a role model but was unprepared for how soon someone would take notice.
  • My Inspiration
    Erin at A Beatnik’s Beat on Life has written thank-you letters to everyone who’s inspired her to become the lactivist and natural parenting advocate she is today.

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Keeshia tweets at  & has commented 99 times at OSN!

Yay! I was eager to see this and wondered what other people would say. It’s awesome to see how you’ve affected others and it should make you feel good :) We love ya lots! Keep writing your awesomeness.
.-= {shared blog entry – Where were you?} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

I can’t thank you enough for what you said, it really just shines a light for me you know? Thank YOU!!

Keeshia tweets at  & has commented 99 times at OSN!

I’ll give you a boost any time you need hun <3

P.S. Your comments when replying are all messed up (at least in chrome). The boxes aren't sitting properly between the little bubbles.
.-= {shared blog entry – Where were you?} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Fixed it (I think), let me know if it’s working properly for you!

life with kaishon commented 4 times at OSN!

How great is this? What you do makes a difference and a profound impression! Fascinating! Stopping over via SITS

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you so much for your comment!

Lauren @ Hobo Mama commented 26 times at OSN!

That is wonderful, Sarah. I’m so glad you received such positive feedback, especially considering some of the offline struggles you’ve shared with us in the past about real-life family and friends not respecting your choices. You truly are an inspiration with all you’ve been through and how open you are, and the strong advocate you are for natural parenting.
.-= {shared blog entry – May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Role model} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you! It really was amazing to me that such fantastic people were inspired by me, especially lately when I’ve been surrounded by some negativity!

Thank you so much Lauren!

Deb Chitwood commented 1 times at OSN!

What great feedback! I love reading about the natural parenting community. It was especially comforting to think of the community of breastfeeding mothers on Twitter at night.
.-= {shared blog entry – My Top 3 Natural Parenting Principles} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

OMG I know right! It’s this amazing network that’s there 24/7/365 for nursing mommas!

JDaniel4's Mom commented 3 times at OSN!

You have inspired many. Stopping from SITS!

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you!!

Joni Rae commented 40 times at OSN!

What lovely, positive feedback!!! AND a creative way to get around the “how do I toot my own horn?” dilemma, oof-this topic was HARD for me!

.-= {shared blog entry – Inspiring Our Snowflakes…} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Oh geez, this topic was awful and LOL it was totally a way to “help” my post along, that’s for sure!

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama commented 17 times at OSN!

I love Keith’s comments. I think Tom would probably say something similar – he’s just never stopped to think about things until I dug up research on it (I hadn’t either, for that matter!). And really, aren’t our partners and children the ones that matter most?! You are definitely inspirational Sarah – I’ve seen the comments on your posts when you open up about your struggles, your joys, your parenting in general. You have a beautiful voice.
.-= {shared blog entry – The Joys of Breastfeeding a Toddler #5} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you! Oh yes, it’s like in Liz’s comment (in my post) where she said she didn’t even KNOW you “could” sleep with your baby.

Without being SHOWN there is another way, people will not take the time to do the research because they figure they will do things the mainstream way.

Danielle commented 24 times at OSN!

You are an inspiration! You are a great mother, and girlfriend, and overall an amazing person.
Don’t let douchebags get you down!
.-= {shared blog entry – Want to Breastfeed? SKIP THE FREEBIES!} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you! Adore you so much!

Kmama commented 1 times at OSN!

Stopping by after you came by to help me celebrate my SITS day last week.

First of all, be proud of what you do. You may not be “mainstream” out in the offline world, but you are doing the best you can and what you feel is best for your child(ren).

Second, your blog design is soooo cute!!
.-= {shared blog entry – Mission Monkey Minute} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you! You must have had an awesome SITS day!

Aww thanks, I just redesigned, hopefully you still like it!

Ma What's For Dinner commented 1 times at OSN!

I applaud you and your vigor to do thing YOUR way and the way you feel is right for you and your family. Don’t ever let anyone lead you astray. While I may not do the same, I admire your tenacity to stick to what you know in your heart.

Thanks for being a part of my SITS day, sorry it’s taken so long to get through all the comments but I wanted to swing by and say a big hi and a big thanks. Your time and words mean the world to me.

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma, What’s For Dinner?

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you! Oh not a problem, I know those who get a SITS day have hundreds of comments to go through, it takes forever!

Lynda commented 109 times at OSN!

It feels so wonderful to help people find their way and their strength. I’m always happy when I hear women changed their mind about breastfeeding or circumcision based on my experiences. You are making a difference by giving a voice to the fact that AP is a natural, normal thing.

I’m sorry you are so unsupported in your local life. Hopefully you are slowly helping to open their minds, too.
.-= {shared blog entry – Mother’s Day Dinner [128/365]} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Yes it does feel wonderful!

It’s hard feeling “alone” when it comes to a parenting local community. Granted I could drive an hour in either direction and FIND a community but driving an hour with a wee one isn’t exactly fun lol.

Paige @ Baby Dust Diaries commented 4 times at OSN!

It must be so hard to have your twin sister parent so differently than you! How wonderful it is that you got so much great feedback about your impact on people.
.-= {shared blog entry – Sunday Surf} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

OMG you don’t know the half of it! I think in some ways it bothers me because she saw how I raised Daniel by myself and then did things COMPLETELY different (aka mainstream all the way) because the “doctor” said it was best. I just am unable to grasp that line of thinking.

Kristi {at} Live and Love...Out Lodu tweets at  & has commented 129 times at OSN!

Great post Sarah! I’m not surprised that I’m not alone in being inspired by you. You really are a great motherhood role model. And if that weren’t enough…from what I’ve learned about you over this short period of time, you’re a good person. I’m glad to have met you via Twitter and am proud to call you a friend.
Have a great day.

Kristi, Live and Love…Out Loud
.-= {shared blog entry – Sunglass Warehouse Review & Giveaway} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Thank you SO MUCH for helping me with my post!! I seriously can not thank you enough!!

Amber commented 3 times at OSN!

Those messages you got from others are awesome! That would totally make my day. I think it’s so great when others reach out to us and tell us how we impacted them. I often hope that I’ve had that effect, but I rarely know for sure.
.-= {shared blog entry – Paying it Forward} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

OMG it SO made my day… my week… my MONTH LOL!! It’s hard to know if we’ve made a positive impact because how the heck do you go to someone “have I made your life better?”. I just hope for the best!

Maureen commented 32 times at OSN!

Kudos to you and you are an awesome mama! I think NP is a beautiful thing and wish I would’ve learn about it more before my son was born. I love Kristi’s comment it is natural, I’m still co-sleeping with my son and he’s not on a schedule LOL. Great job!

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Yay thank you! Oh yay for co-sleeping!! Isn’t so sweet to wake up to their squishy happy faces!

FireMom tweets at  & has commented 40 times at OSN!

You are! I’m so glad that I came back across your blog all these years later. Keep it up!
.-= {shared blog entry – Firefighter News Headlines or, Where Are the Murderous Plumbers?} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Omgosh seriously, fate or what lol!

NavelgazingBajan commented 13 times at OSN!

It’s so lovely to get those personal testimonials of how you’ve inspired others. I bet it also serves as further encouragement to keep doing what you’re doing.

I will say to you that one of the things that I enjoy about your blog is the beautiful photos that you take, particularly of your family. You inspire me to want to do the same.
.-= {shared blog entry – That Little Thing} =-.

Sarah tweets at  & has commented 3891 times at OSN!

Oh it completely encourages me! That I am showing people a BETTER way!

Aww thank you! I really need to take more photos of the boys together, it’s just they move so FAST that I can’t get a non-blurry shot lol.

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