Comments on: too much http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/ design.attachment parenting.photography.glitter. Wed, 23 May 2012 02:09:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Arielle http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-59 Arielle Thu, 28 May 2009 09:23:58 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-59 <p>Everyone else needs to shut the fuck up. I mean, unless you’re outright abusing or neglecting your children, why should they care how you raise them? Like disposable diapers are the difference between your kids being happy, successful people and being heroin addicts.</p> <p>Like I said, everyone needs to shut the fuck up.</p> <p><br /> I hope the rest of your pregnancy and the birth goes smoothly. </p> Everyone else needs to shut the fuck up. I mean, unless you’re outright abusing or neglecting your children, why should they care how you raise them? Like disposable diapers are the difference between your kids being happy, successful people and being heroin addicts.

Like I said, everyone needs to shut the fuck up.

I hope the rest of your pregnancy and the birth goes smoothly.

]]> By: Erin http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-58 Erin Wed, 27 May 2009 02:12:31 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-58 <p>I’m due in December although this little one will probably break out earlier than that. My daughter Jas was born two months early and my doctors figured out why two weeks ago: I have two uterus’s instead of one big roomy one. Apparently when I was being built, my two uterus’s never fused into one like what happens with most women. My first pregnancy was an emergency c-section since she was breech and I was way dilated when I got to the hospital. I’d really rather not have that happen again. Far too exciting for my taste! I don’t want bragging rights, just a healthy baby and to survive it all. =P</p> <p>I think the worst thing for me about the c-section was the recovery time. It took me ages and I was so paranoid that my guts would burst out. >.< </p> <p>I hope we both have totally normal and “boring” pregnancies from here on out. Or at least, very safe ones. </p> I’m due in December although this little one will probably break out earlier than that. My daughter Jas was born two months early and my doctors figured out why two weeks ago: I have two uterus’s instead of one big roomy one. Apparently when I was being built, my two uterus’s never fused into one like what happens with most women. My first pregnancy was an emergency c-section since she was breech and I was way dilated when I got to the hospital. I’d really rather not have that happen again. Far too exciting for my taste! I don’t want bragging rights, just a healthy baby and to survive it all. =P

I think the worst thing for me about the c-section was the recovery time. It took me ages and I was so paranoid that my guts would burst out. >.<

I hope we both have totally normal and “boring” pregnancies from here on out. Or at least, very safe ones.

]]> By: Sarah http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-57 Sarah Wed, 27 May 2009 01:14:45 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-57 <p>@ P.A, when it comes to vax, if people decided to vax their children based on actually researching the topic, yay. The problem I see is that parents tend to believe everything a medical professional tells them, even though (just like us) they are basing a lot off of personal biases and opinions rather than medical fact or studies done. Meh. </p> <p>Lol thanks! I just wish 1. the bronchitis would go away and 2. the hyperemesis would finally go away. </p> <p><br /> @ Erin, you’re right! I think I would go utterly insane if the ‘web didn’t exsist! When are you due? I am super nervous but I hated the c-section I had with my son (even though it was needed due to him being transverse footling breech) and I really want the birth situation that I want, not what everyone around me (family/friends/medical folks) wants. </p> <p>Oh I completely agree, or the women try to downplay what you are going through “well I worked so my situation was worse/more dramatic/etc”, it’s so bizarre isn’t it! </p> @ P.A, when it comes to vax, if people decided to vax their children based on actually researching the topic, yay. The problem I see is that parents tend to believe everything a medical professional tells them, even though (just like us) they are basing a lot off of personal biases and opinions rather than medical fact or studies done. Meh.

Lol thanks! I just wish 1. the bronchitis would go away and 2. the hyperemesis would finally go away.

@ Erin, you’re right! I think I would go utterly insane if the ‘web didn’t exsist! When are you due? I am super nervous but I hated the c-section I had with my son (even though it was needed due to him being transverse footling breech) and I really want the birth situation that I want, not what everyone around me (family/friends/medical folks) wants.

Oh I completely agree, or the women try to downplay what you are going through “well I worked so my situation was worse/more dramatic/etc”, it’s so bizarre isn’t it!

]]> By: Erin http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-56 Erin Tue, 26 May 2009 19:06:35 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-56 <p>Ugh, the lack of social support is so upsetting. I’m very sorry that you are in that situation. At least you have us interweb peoples. =)</p> <p>I wish you the best of luck with your VBAC. I’m going to be doing that with my little baby this time and I’m a bit nervous about it all. But I have several months to go before things get that far, thank goodness.</p> <p>As far as justifying pregnancies and parenting types, I think it’s something we all do to some degree. We are all trying to do the best by our children and I think that is the most important thing of all. But I will admit that when talking to some ladies about the horrors of a previous pregnancy, sometimes it feels like they aren’t even listening to a word I say, just waiting to pounce in with how their situation was worse!</p> <p>Eh, anyway. Best wishes with your little babe. </p> Ugh, the lack of social support is so upsetting. I’m very sorry that you are in that situation. At least you have us interweb peoples. =)

I wish you the best of luck with your VBAC. I’m going to be doing that with my little baby this time and I’m a bit nervous about it all. But I have several months to go before things get that far, thank goodness.

As far as justifying pregnancies and parenting types, I think it’s something we all do to some degree. We are all trying to do the best by our children and I think that is the most important thing of all. But I will admit that when talking to some ladies about the horrors of a previous pregnancy, sometimes it feels like they aren’t even listening to a word I say, just waiting to pounce in with how their situation was worse!

Eh, anyway. Best wishes with your little babe.

]]> By: P.A. http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-55 P.A. Sat, 23 May 2009 07:16:50 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-55 <p>I think it kind of goes both ways with the defending-my-parenting. I’m waiting on my first, and haven’t made a lot of decisions because I have to look into them more (like vaccinations). I have definitely seen the ‘I decided to vaccinate because…’ But have also seen women comment on having taken their kid for vaccinations and get hammered with the reasons somone else DIDN’T go that route. I try to make the best decisions I can and then I’m ok. I’m willing to hear someone else’s opinion, if they aren’t just trying to fight then I’m ok. As long as I do my best I am comfortable with my decisions. When I learn better ill do better! :)</p> <p>I don’t have much support either. I moved away from home just before becoming pregnant, and found out just from the move that I wasn’t really close enough with ANYONE back home to even want to share this with them. I definitely wouldn’t be getting support from them. I tried at first to keep friendships intact, but everyone made it clear it was out-of-sight, out-of-mind.</p> <p>If it makes you feel better, I read your blog on occasion and your pregnancy seems way worse than mine :) </p> I think it kind of goes both ways with the defending-my-parenting. I’m waiting on my first, and haven’t made a lot of decisions because I have to look into them more (like vaccinations). I have definitely seen the ‘I decided to vaccinate because…’ But have also seen women comment on having taken their kid for vaccinations and get hammered with the reasons somone else DIDN’T go that route. I try to make the best decisions I can and then I’m ok. I’m willing to hear someone else’s opinion, if they aren’t just trying to fight then I’m ok. As long as I do my best I am comfortable with my decisions. When I learn better ill do better! :)

I don’t have much support either. I moved away from home just before becoming pregnant, and found out just from the move that I wasn’t really close enough with ANYONE back home to even want to share this with them. I definitely wouldn’t be getting support from them. I tried at first to keep friendships intact, but everyone made it clear it was out-of-sight, out-of-mind.

If it makes you feel better, I read your blog on occasion and your pregnancy seems way worse than mine :)

]]> By: Sarah http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-54 Sarah Fri, 22 May 2009 21:15:56 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-54 <p>Thank you Jenn! I plan on using prefolds/covers especially for the NB phase, some fitted’s, AIO’s, and maybe some pocket diapers. CD has come SUCH a long way since I CD Daniel lol. </p> <p>Do you have any suggested CD sites you purchase from? </p> Thank you Jenn! I plan on using prefolds/covers especially for the NB phase, some fitted’s, AIO’s, and maybe some pocket diapers. CD has come SUCH a long way since I CD Daniel lol.

Do you have any suggested CD sites you purchase from?

]]> By: Jenn http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-53 Jenn Fri, 22 May 2009 21:13:21 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-53 <p>It sounds to me like you have a great plan for your baby—both how you will have him/her and take care of him/her. VBAC is definitely the way to go, so long as you’ve made an informed decision (which I know you have!) and you have a good support system. I hope it all works out for you. If I had a third child I would definitely have a VBAC (like you, I found out around 38 weeks that Ryan was transverse lie, totally wrapped around my middle).</p> <p>I hope that you can find the support that you need. It’s a shame that those who should be supportive and caring are not. :(</p> <p>P.S. AIO cloth diapers all the way! I love using them on Ryan. I have at least a dozen Happy Heinys and Fuzzi Bunz around, so there’s always plenty to get through the day with. </p> It sounds to me like you have a great plan for your baby—both how you will have him/her and take care of him/her. VBAC is definitely the way to go, so long as you’ve made an informed decision (which I know you have!) and you have a good support system. I hope it all works out for you. If I had a third child I would definitely have a VBAC (like you, I found out around 38 weeks that Ryan was transverse lie, totally wrapped around my middle).

I hope that you can find the support that you need. It’s a shame that those who should be supportive and caring are not. :(

P.S. AIO cloth diapers all the way! I love using them on Ryan. I have at least a dozen Happy Heinys and Fuzzi Bunz around, so there’s always plenty to get through the day with.

]]> By: Sarah http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-52 Sarah Fri, 22 May 2009 21:11:22 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-52 <p>Part of me feels that when parents get overly defensive about their “decisions” when it comes to parenting that they simply were railroaded into them, didn’t actually research them, or fear other schools of thought if you will. </p> <p>I really would love a doula, around here I believe it’s $500-600. It never occurred to me to see if the hospital offers one for a lower or free cost! Thank you so much for the suggestion! </p> Part of me feels that when parents get overly defensive about their “decisions” when it comes to parenting that they simply were railroaded into them, didn’t actually research them, or fear other schools of thought if you will.

I really would love a doula, around here I believe it’s $500–600. It never occurred to me to see if the hospital offers one for a lower or free cost! Thank you so much for the suggestion!

]]> By: Ally http://onestarrynight.com/too-much/#comment-51 Ally Fri, 22 May 2009 20:46:10 +0000 http://www.onestarrynight.com/?p=14#comment-51 <p>I never understood why parents felt the need to justify their parenting methods in those situations.  I remember that when I made it “public” that I would delay vaccinations (and opt out of some) it turned into an invitation to begin conversations with “Well, I vaxxed and here’s why!”.  </p> <p>Meh.</p> <p>Does your hospital offer doulas?  I know ours did, for free, and mine was awesome.  I’d just suggest getting to know one beforehand if possible.  Or, if the hospital doesn’t offer them, do you have any midwives or doulas in training that could be with you during your birth?  I know many of them get training that way - and it counts toward their certification.  I’d Google and see what’s nearby. </p> I never understood why parents felt the need to justify their parenting methods in those situations.  I remember that when I made it “public” that I would delay vaccinations (and opt out of some) it turned into an invitation to begin conversations with “Well, I vaxxed and here’s why!”. 

Meh.

Does your hospital offer doulas?  I know ours did, for free, and mine was awesome.  I’d just suggest getting to know one beforehand if possible.  Or, if the hospital doesn’t offer them, do you have any midwives or doulas in training that could be with you during your birth?  I know many of them get training that way — and it counts toward their certification.  I’d Google and see what’s nearby.

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