After reading your post I feel very lucky and grateful to have my parents. My grandmother (my mother’s mom), was not the best mother, but my mother was wonderful and still is. I live across the street from my parents. I wanted to be out on my own, but not far. My mother and father are still together and have been for 25 years. I mean, I’ve had spats with my parents and they’ve had spats with each other, but my upbringing was fine and so was my brothers. My parents have never done something that wasn’t forgivable. And I would never have to be afraid of them or afraid for my children (if I ever have any).

I am very sorry to hear about your relationship with your mother. But it sounds better and safer to stay away from her.