Hostee Issues

I am very stressed out with my hostees, or at least most of them. For the most part, they ignore me, which is sad since one is my twin sister, two others are in real life friends, and the other is just an internet hostee who is having issues with some other online person and they keep dragging my site and name into it. I really do enjoy hosting people, although today it is hard finding anyone who is
1.18+years of age
2.Has a nice site
3.actually understands that I PAY to have Osn and that I am sharing my space out of the perkiness of my heart.
I just do not know what to do. If it were any other people they would have been deleted by now. I just do not know how to handle the situation. I wonder if my attempts to host people is because I feel a lack of “family” in my own life. Matt and I are not typical. We don’t really have any friends out here for various reasons, mostly because we are parents at our age while most people are being loud idiots, but back to the hostees, Maybe it’s more of a problem because I have my sister and real life, although in different states, friends being hosted. Maybe they feel they are exempt from doing anything here? Matt thinks it was foolish to host my sister and her friend in the first place, but I am all for adding to the millions of blogs out there, even if I do have to make thier layouts and harras them to post weekly. I really sound bitchy…I just wish I knew how to make myself feel better about the situation.