I really need blogging advice… Should I make the full on blog switch from onestarrynight.com to starrymom.com? Worry is that “starrymom” sounds “mom blog” specific. And I’ve never been the best at mommy blogging.
Granted I go through this every year when it comes time to renew onestarrynight.com (12 years at this domain come November!) but more and more I’m simply just frustrated. Frustrated at my lack of progress over the past 12 years. Frustrated that I take it SO personally. Frustrated that I do NOT do it “to be a writer” but to CONNECT with people, which I seem to lack at.
YES I care about my numbers and stats. YES I care that my evil Facebook page basically doesn’t appear in timelines anymore, including my own, and repeated contact attempts with Facebook have proven useless. YES I care and take it to heart when I tweet, write on googleplus, post on my Facebook page, to not have a single person respond, to direct questions no less.
To people who tell me “to hell with it! write whatever you want! who cares what people think!” apparently don’t see or deal with the fall out from doing that. Nothing like helping 12 people THIS YEAR ALONE block / trace IP addresses from their blog for threats against them or their children to make one shy back from writing anything controversial.
Hell, this month alone I got some bitchy troll comments about how I type and that I post too many flower photos. My first reaction was taking it super personally, my second reaction was “I gots me some classy pansy bitch trolls. Nice” I don’t think they realize that not only do I have their IP address and basic information like browser and operating system, exciting right, but their ISP information as well. Makes it easy to track and easy to file police reports if I so choose. Yay.
I also struggle with the thought that if I’ve been doing this for so long with little to no progress… why do I persist in trying so hard? Why do I take it so personally? I’m sure part of it is my mindset still is firmly in “how it used to be” where folks who blogged and had domain names were more of a tight-knit group and with millions of brand new bloggers starting every year, obviously that’s no longer the case (probably where niche blogging is easier, too bad chola-blogging isn’t a niche).
So what’s the solution? Quit? Keep doing what I’ve been doing for over a decade which obviously isn’t working?
How do you handle a blogging funk?