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I really need blogging advice… Should I make the full on blog switch from onestarrynight.com to starrymom.com? Worry is that “starrymom” sounds “mom blog” specific. And I’ve never been the best at mommy blogging.

Granted I go through this every year when it comes time to renew onestarrynight.com (12 years at this domain come November!) but more and more I’m simply just frustrated. Frustrated at my lack of progress over the past 12 years. Frustrated that I take it SO personally. Frustrated that I do NOT do it “to be a writer” but to CONNECT with people, which I seem to lack at.

YES I care about my numbers and stats. YES I care that my evil Facebook page basically doesn’t appear in timelines anymore, including my own, and repeated contact attempts with Facebook have proven useless. YES I care and take it to heart when I tweet, write on googleplus, post on my Facebook page, to not have a single person respond, to direct questions no less.

To people who tell me “to hell with it! write whatever you want! who cares what people think!” apparently don’t see or deal with the fall out from doing that. Nothing like helping 12 people THIS YEAR ALONE block / trace IP addresses from their blog for threats against them or their children to make one shy back from writing anything controversial.

Hell, this month alone I got some bitchy troll comments about how I type and that I post too many flower photos. My first reaction was taking it super personally, my second reaction was “I gots me some classy pansy bitch trolls. Nice” I don’t think they realize that not only do I have their IP address and basic information like browser and operating system, exciting right, but their ISP information as well. Makes it easy to track and easy to file police reports if I so choose. Yay.

I also struggle with the thought that if I’ve been doing this for so long with little to no progress… why do I persist in trying so hard? Why do I take it so personally? I’m sure part of it is my mindset still is firmly in “how it used to be” where folks who blogged and had domain names were more of a tight-knit group and with millions of brand new bloggers starting every year, obviously that’s no longer the case (probably where niche blogging is easier, too bad chola-blogging isn’t a niche).

So what’s the solution? Quit? Keep doing what I’ve been doing for over a decade which obviously isn’t working?

How do you handle a blogging funk?

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 5:48PM CDT

I go with the be flexible model. Purchase the other domain name you want, and point both domain names to the same site (whichever domain name you want to try). This way you don’t lose anything you have built up in the past (due to SEO) and you can try something new to see if it works.

For Social Networking I’m not sure how much can be changed while still keeping your followers in tact. That’s a good thing to take a look at before changing.

Good luck!

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:19PM CDT

I did that sort of. I bought StarryMom.com last year and have it pointed to OSN. I do struggle with this yearly, if I should renew OSN or not, keep blogging or not. I wish my brain were simpler in that respect lol!

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 5:50PM CDT

Eff. I’d posted a comment then hit the “Older” link instead of the submission button. Ugh. Today is quickly deteriorating. I just need to be home. Where the cats will undoubtedly poop and stink it up as soon as I get settled.

Anyway, how ridiculous that someone took the time to tell you they didn’t like your flower photos. Um.. so? Do they want a cookie for that or something?

I blog to make friends as well. I’ve given up on getting a huge following–it’s too much work and causes too much drama. More followers = more chances of trolls.

Oh and I LIKE One Starry Night. It’s a pretty name. :)

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:21PM CDT

LOL! Oh yes, for the first time in 12 years I have a child troll (I can only assume he/she is a child because an adult acting like this? Geez!). Mainly about my awful grammar and how dare I expect people to look at my flower photos. Damn.

Do you have a similar struggle with the “old days” vs how it is today?

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:43PM CDT

Mmm, nah, I wouldn’t say I have a struggle with the old days vs. now, although it does seem like blogging takes on a whole different meaning these days. Now, it’s OK for people to monetize and have ads and stuff–remember how we used to frown so hard upon that? Of course, we weren’t making the money off the ads, the hosting sites were, and to have an ad wasn’t so good. I guess it was a “class” thing b/c domains and hosting were so expensive. It did seem like more of a community and less like a competition, though.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 2:52AM CDT

LOL I do remember that! I also think it was more about personal / lifestyle blogging rather than the more… super specific niche blogging today, which isn’t a bad thing but it’s like my brain hasn’t caught up 100% yet.

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 5:56PM CDT

I LOVE your domain name! I don’t think you should change it. I haven’t been blogging as much as I’d like because of school but when I’m in funks I try to come up with new features or posts. I recently just re-started blogging on a domain but I understand how you feel… even my “real life” blog people in real life don’t read — ever. It is frustrating! I think blogging is taking the back burner to microblogging these days :

I don’t really know what to say besides just keep blogging. People always say “post as much or as little as you want — it’s your blog!” but if you post too little people won’t come back. I haven’t figured out the balance yet either.

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:22PM CDT

I completely appreciate my long time readers, my newbie readers, all of it! It really comes up around the time OSN comes up for renewal and also when people email me on how I must be so BUSY and must have crazy stats that I have to acknowledge… not so much.

Natalie P.
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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 6:31PM CDT

Honestly? A few things.

One, keep One Starry Night, it’s catchy and pretty much your brand at this point.

Two, If you want to connect with people, stop trying to please everyone. People can’t really connect with people who never take a side, who never take a stand. Obviously, I am just talking about the controversial things, but the premise is real.

Three, internet trolls and threats mean nothing if you are smart enough to keep your personal information secure and people cannot find you. They are simply anonymous threats over the world wide web, often by butt hurt people with the emotional range of cucumbers.

I think that you should, seriously, reconsider having a public persona if you are afraid to ruffle feathers. People flock to controversy and people read drama. People won’t read or connect with you if you are flat and neutral in all things.

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:25PM CDT

I appreciate your comment!

It’s not so much that I want to please people so much as avoid a fight. I’ve seen how just blogging about your trip to the grocery store can turn into someone calling the police / CPS on you for being an unfit parent for buying store brand hot dogs (an example) rather than nitrate free hot dogs.

It completely fuels my desire to avoid drama in my life so I avoid posting anything that could potentially send someone off the deep end. “I like glitter!” and bam, someone having a heart attack about it.

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:46PM CDT

…the crap. People actually do that? Will call CPS because of a type of HOT DOG you buy your kids?

WOW. Wow. WOW.

It amazes me that someone has that much time on their hands. I’ll bet if you ask that person to cough up the money to pay for those nitrate free or whatever hot dogs, they’d run.


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posted on August 24th 2012 at 2:54AM CDT

YES! People will take something so ridiculous and see it as a sign of abuse, and speaking AS a child abuse survivor, it absolutely blows my mind how someone could do something like that to a family.

Natalie P.
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 7:09AM CDT

I totally understand that, as an abuse survivor myself. However, I know what a CPS visit is like, and how they will roll their eyes at the accuser if it is unfounded. Are they pleasant visits? Not very, but if I have nothing to fear, then why fear them?

Living in constant fear of pissing off *someone* leaves you empty and afraid, and, well, stuck. You can’t say you like bacon because of Muslims, you can’t say you love hamburger because of Indians, you can’t say you like cheese burgers because it isn’t Kosher and may offend the Jews.

If you prefer the store brand hot dogs(or can’t afford anything more), you aren’t abusing your child, you are making a conscious choice(by necessity or preference) to by a certain type of hot dog. Now, if you blogged about leaving your kids in the car in July while you went and bought those hot dogs, THEN it would be founded.

People suck for going off the deep end. I understand this.

But I’m not going to be the meek and timid little mouse in the corner, afraid to be stepped on or kicked, and squeaking quietly, hoping to get heard.

Nope, I’m the giant ROUS(rat of unusual size) who’s going to take a stand and say “I’m stronger than the anonymous people”.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:21PM CDT

I’m also sadly very familiar with CPS visits, both as a child and as a mother. As a mother, many years ago CPS was called because my deaf father “spoke too loudly towards your son”. Seriously. I didn’t get any eye-rolling or casual interaction, they took it to mean my son was being abused and it lasted MONTHS.

I won’t get into the epic story of my childhood in the comments lol!

I have lost followers/readers because I asked for suggestions on what to make with chicken breasts for dinner (I got emails explaining that my tweet about it a couple years ago forced them to unfollow me / never visit my site again).

It is something I want to work on for myself, developing a thicker skin.

Natalie P.
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 4:12PM CDT

I lost followers when I reviewed a book for transgendered parents to explain transitioning to their children…gained a few too. I lost a follower after that for posting a Pagan house cleansing ritual.

I don’t even worry about my followers anymore, I just worry about making good content. As long as it’s read, I don’t worry about the exact people reading it. I’m very glad for readers that stay, but I accept that not all people will be happy with me for all things I post, especially considering I’m a fairly chaotic writer.

You really do need a thick skin online, it’s crazy.

I would touch on everything else, but I understand keeping things off the comments. I will say that CPS handled the case poorly if they continued after finding out your father was deaf.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 4:17PM CDT

Deaf and Italian lol! We’re loud and talk with our hands.

These days we can actually file police reports against “trolls”, it’s crazy easy to track someone down, yet they keep doing it. I don’t understand at all why.

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 7:12PM CDT

As someone who’s been blogging for almost 10 years, I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. I’ve had to start over quite a few times and lost my readership and felt like it was pointless to keep going.

I just recently started my blog up again when I found out I was pregnant, because I moved clear across the country and everyone I know and love is still back on the East Coast. My numbers are still horrific and I never get any comments, but being able to share this phase of my life with my family is more important to me than any numbers could ever be.

I don’t comment much – in fact, this might be my first time – but I check every day to see if you’ve written anything new and genuinely enjoy your posts. Even your “boring” flower pictures. And i know I’m not the only one.

Please don’t give up completely. Having even a few loyal readers who can relate to you, and you to them, is more valuable than having 100 passers-by who only comment for the link back or to talk shit.


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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 9:26PM CDT

It’s actually your second comment!

I appreciate my readers so much and I’m not looking for 100 comments and a billion followers, just something to set me apart for being here SO long at the same URL, I suppose I feel like that should count for something?

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 7:15PM CDT

I really like your domain name and I think you ought to keep it. I agree that starrymom sounds like a blog about motherhood, and that’s not your main focus on the site.

As far as lack of progress, I think you’re being too hard on yourself. People do look at your blog and appreciate it. I haven’t seen your stats and I don’t read all the comments you get, but it seems to me that you get a decent amount of visitors and get good feedback (comments) for the most part. And if some people don’t like flower photos, let them go somewhere else! First and foremost, the blog should be whatever you want it to be, whatever makes you happy and is satisfying to you.

Part of the problem could be that, as a SAHM, you’re isolated and so you put a lot of importance on your online interactions. (I work at home and I know I rely on Facebook and Twitter for interaction more than I probably should.) It’s easy to put a lot of emphasis on your online community when you don’t have enough in-person social opportunities. Try not to take it personally when you don’t get the response level you’d like. Plenty of people like you; we just don’t always have time to interact.

I hope that helps some. I know it’s hard. Hang in there.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 2:57AM CDT

LOVE LOVE LOVE this comment. You hit (one of them anyway!) the nail on the head! I do put more than average importance on my online interactions. I’ve always been used to getting a response to an email, tweet, whatever it is within a reasonable time frame rather than weeks later or not at all (which is more common now). It’s super hard to NOT take it personally and wonder if I somehow crossed a boundary I was unaware of or pissed someone off.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 9:40AM CDT

I hear you — I tend to fret and speculate too. It’s something I’ve tried to work on and I do think I’m better than I used to be. Anyway — I’m glad my comments were helpful to you! :-)

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:24PM CDT

I need to work on it but I don’t know where to start.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 4:23PM CDT

Just try to recognize when you’re having those sorts of negative thoughts and shut them down by countering with positive thoughts. If you don’t get a response one day and you’re taking it personally, think something like “I’ve gotten responses other times so people must just be busy today and either didn’t see my tweet or didn’t have time to respond.” Or if you have a post that didn’t get many comments, go back and look at a recent post that did have lots of comments and remind yourself that you are pretty popular. I always find it helpful to look for concrete evidence that things are better than I think. Sometimes I’ll get in a funk and think things are just terrible, and then I’ll step back and look at real facts and realize that I’ve exaggerated the situation in my mind and it’s really not so bad. And if all else fails, try distracting yourself with a good book, TV or game. :-)

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posted on August 23rd 2012 at 8:11PM CDT

I love your domain name! I’ve been blogging since before it was called blogging and iframes were just catching on and I say this: As long as you are writing and doing something you feel to be worth while then don’t stop. Finding your niche isn’t hard when you are writing about beauty, life and photography. There’s nothing wrong with writing about your life, your style. I like you style and I like the way you write!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 2:58AM CDT

Thank you!

Oh yes, I had a DOMAIN rather than a blog in those early days lol! Iframe designs, tables… oh those awful table layouts… memories!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 2:47AM CDT

Handle the blogging funk? Hell, I’ve been on a blogging funk since before Sewwy.com expired, which was years ago now. It’s awful. I loved blogging, but it seemed to become a thing that felt like a chore, and I’ve always felt that you shouldn’t do anything (except chores) if you start to hate going to do them.

That said, fresh changes are one of the best things that you could do. I love starting fresh, and whilst I doubt you’d delete all of OSN’s history, just change your domain name, the change could be enough to motivate you once more.

I would just recommend to take it at your own pace. Don’t feel like posting for a week? Hey, nobody’s going to eat your head over it :)

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:17AM CDT

I think people have it so much easier today, it’s “find your niche!” when I started it was “online journal that people can comment on!” and I don’t do lifestyle or mommy blogging very well ha!

erin aka eef
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 7:27AM CDT

I love your current domain name, I think you should keep it!

I feel like I’m in kind of the same place as you… I really miss the old days where we had websites and wrote whatever we wanted and had an amazing community! Kept all the riffraff who didn’t know how to code out! lol j/k (kinda)

I started my blog as a place to just blog about my life, but then it started morphing into a design-type blog for my business, but I felt so frustrated that all people wanted out of me were free designs and tutorials. I’m trying to switch it back to being more about me, and people can choose not to read if they don’t like it.

But since I work from home, I really want people to like it and comment because I don’t see anyone all day and blogging and social media are about my only human interactions! I’ve definitely noticed my readership going down since I started blogging less (because I’m busy) and when I do blog it’s less “here’s how you install social media icons” and more “this is what’s going on in my life.”

I know it sounds bitchy, but I kind of HATE that just anyone can blog now–I really liked the community when it was smaller, and you’d have to actually go to someone’s website and leave a comment in their guest book. I made so many friends back then! Now even when people read blogs they don’t have time to comment because there are 100 other blogs that they read filling up their reader. =

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:27PM CDT

I think I love you. For reals. YES AND MORE YES! It’s like you’re in my brain.

Nicole P.
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 7:54AM CDT

I like onestarrynight over starrymom. I don’t blog in hopes of becoming a huge blogger with a huge following. I’d rather have a small number of followers and commenters that I actually interact with than a bunch of random folks that I don’t really know, you know? Yeah there are like 6 million blogs started daily but if I don’t connect with the blogger it doesn’t matter.

When I first discovered blogs, I used to read all the Big Names and leave comments and attempt to interact but because my voice was just one of zillion, it really didn’t matter. Real connections (even virtual ones) are what make blogging worth it to me.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:28PM CDT

Oh yes, I’m not looking for fame or crazy numbers. Just progress and interaction.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 9:26AM CDT

While all the comments above have good advice and such, keep in mind that they’re each just one person’s opinion. We, your readers, can’t decide what’s right for you.

I do have some questions, but don’t feel obligated to answer them here. Just think about them, if you like.

Why do you want to change domains (to starrymom or any other)?
Are you looking for a fresh start?
Do you think that changing domains will change how people react to your posts/tweets/FB updates?
What would you gain from rebranding (essentially) yourself? What would you lose?

I’m sorry you’re in a blogging funk, and I hope you feel better about it all soon!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:33PM CDT

1. because I feel like that’s the fastest path to change but I have the hardest time following through on a domain change

2. I am looking for a fresh or semi-fresh start, I sometimes feel like people see me as that barely 19 year old blogger lol.

3. maybe?

4. gain… not sure? I’d lose what little traffic I get most likely

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 9:31AM CDT

Realize that listeners are listeners because they don’t talk much, but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate what you do and don’t care about what you write.

They just don’t talk…they listen.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:36PM CDT

Thank you! I can totally identify with that as I tend to be more of a reader than an active commenter on a lot of my favorite blogs that I read. Something I’m also working on!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 10:04AM CDT

I totally see where you’re coming from about how blogging has changed. I didn’t start my blog as it is today until about 2 years ago, but before that I was on LiveJournal (remember LiveJournal?!) and it was kind of the same thing. It was a circle of people and we wrote about what was going on in our lives, posted photos, etc. I miss it sometimes, but I see a clear difference between that and what I do now–what I do now is a business. It seems to me that maybe you’re waivering between wanting this to be a business and wanting it to be a hobby?

Twitter sucks lately. I was just discussing this with someone else. I used to find it so fun and I’d get so many responses to my tweets and now it’s like an echo chamber.

Anyway, I appreciate your blog and I hope you’re able to get it to a place that feels right for you!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 1:01PM CDT

I thought I was the only one that was feeling that way about Twitter. It seems now even when asking a direct question, no one answers. It use to be such fun and now I find myself rolling my eyes…

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:38PM CDT

LOL I still have my LJ but I use it to read others these days… http://starrymom.livejournal.com

You’re right, I am wondering which path to take. More of a blogger or more as a business. I was actually discussing that with my husband last night!

Oh yes, twitter is like speaking into the void.

Lori Popkewitz Alper
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 10:39AM CDT

My two cents (since you asked)-I really like your name as is. I just found you and already love what you do. Hang in there. We all go through blogging funks. Maybe devote some time to charting out your “what’s next” plan. Or better yet, a business plan. That always helps me focus, gain inspiration and remember why I’m going what I’m doing. Thanks again for the help on my blog. You rock in my book.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 3:39PM CDT

Thank you!! My friend Veronica ) suggested I do an editorial calendar so I’m going to try that AND in January I’m going to completely re-do my design side of things so it’s more straight-forward and organized.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 11:44AM CDT

I like OneStarryNight.com. Starry Mom definitely sounds like a “mom blog.

I’ve struggled with the Why Am I Doing This question, too, and the conclusion I reached was pretty much just because I like it. It looks like you’ve built a nice little community here!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 4:23PM CDT

Thank you so much! I do appreciate that I have readers going back as far as 2001! Mind blowing sometimes!

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 1:00PM CDT

I follow you via Bloglovin’ and while I don’t comment a lot (once or twice) I will tell you that I think you should keep OSN. Adding mom to your url will definitely put you in the mommy niche and I think you are much more than that. I myself regret buying my current domain but now I’m also afraid to not have it.

I have been blogging for several years and have a handful of followers, even less comments. I get all excited about the prospect of having a tribe of folks, only to always feel like no one wants new friends, online or otherwise.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 4:24PM CDT

Thank you!

I do feel like people aren’t as personable, depending on the niche.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 8:58PM CDT

I like OSN as a name and this is just me but I get annoyed when people change domains. It’s hard enough for me to remember who’s twitter username goes to which blog and which Instagram account so when all that changes it throws me off.

Also, I’d totally respond to questions and such but it looks like you unfriended me on twitter so… I guess I can’t.

About the blog, I don’t really have any great advise for you. I wish I had the magic words to make you feel better about it but I’ve really never cared about hits or comments or any of that. I LOVE reading blogs that are REAL and don’t pander to that stuff because then it feels to me like the person is writing because they WANT to write, not because they are writing to accomplish a task. I like your picture posts, I like your tutorials, I like when you post about your kids. That’s why I have your blog in my RSS feed.

As far as the haters, fuck ’em. Seriously. You can’t ever let them own any part of your time or thoughts because they really aren’t worth it at all.

Anwyay, that’s just my opinion. Just keep being yourself and real and people will like you for who you are and THOSE are the people worth having around because they like you and appreciate you simply because you are being you.

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posted on August 24th 2012 at 9:28PM CDT

It’s interesting for me to google starrymom or onestarrynight and see all the accounts I’ve registered for and never used over the years lol!

Are you talking about @starrymom or @onestarrynight? I didn’t see a follow on @onestarrynight and I rarely RARELY use @starrymom anymore.

I really wish my brain processed stuff normally. My husband believes it stems from my upbringing (say something that wasn’t liked and get hit or thrown out). Who knows!

Amanda Jillian
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posted on August 24th 2012 at 9:51PM CDT

Personally I LOVE One Starry Night, as you know from my chalk drawings. I like how it sounds better than Starry Mom as a blog name. Like me with Moon in a Cup but I’m getting more recognition from Faerie Barista.

Now I’m going to head over to FB and make sure I have you clicked to show up in my news feed. I swear the new FB stuff is bugging me a bit.

Stick with it sweets! I love your blog!

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 10:21AM CDT

And I LOVE that chalk drawing! LOVE IT!

I emailed FB every day for a week and things seem to have gotten better finally!

Amanda Jillian
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posted on August 30th 2012 at 9:50PM CDT

I’ve been wanting to do more but the driveway’s been too hot. It’s cooling off a bit, so I might go out. I also did ones for TabeticZombie and Tales of a Kitchen Witch, but I think One Starry Night came out the best.

Sheena Tatum
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posted on August 26th 2012 at 4:04PM CDT

1. StarryMom is probably easier to type, but seriously don’t get yourself lumped into a niche that you are not into. Avoid it like the plague, lol. I love OneStarryNight better + you’ve had it FOREVER. You are MORE than just mom.

2. It’s super annoying when it feels like you’re talking to a wall, but just like back in the old days you have to comment a lot to receive comments. I had a whole lot of time to comment in my teen years *sigh*. And while Twitter & FB seem to be avenues to connect… all of the changes and noise are making it hard to even be seen and people rather interact on those platforms rather than the blog.

But wait, you get tons of comments… so why are you wanting to give up?

I handle blogging funks by disconnecting. Doing something I love away from the computer or maybe surfing Pinterest for a while and trying something new featured there.

I try to stay in the safe zone, but I can’t stand being a people pleaser so I am working on writing how I truly feel/talk even if that means dropping “sentence enhancers”. But seriously someone got bent out of shape over some damn hot dogs? A regular post that just happened to have regular hot dogs in the cart? People need to get a life.

Trolls enjoy when you admit that they affect you, so block them if they keep coming back. They’ll find something else to do.

Just blog what you love, I think that editorial calendar may help or if you have unfinished drafts, try to finish them. I have 92 :-/.

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 10:24AM CDT

Thank you!

Oh yes, I know in the past people tell me to not expect “every tweet to be responded to” but my goal isn’t so much THAT as it is just to interact or perhaps have a direct question answered.

I have SO MANY drafts! I haven’t published them though because 1. they are heavy / depressing about my past like domestic abuse 2. I can’t remember why I wrote a post in the first place LOL

Totally appreciate your comment!!

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posted on August 26th 2012 at 10:40PM CDT

I have no idea how to get out of the blog funk. That is why mine has been in a constant state of funk. Honestly I love your domain name and I wouldn’t change it if you don’t want to be seen as a mommy blogger.

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 10:27AM CDT

Thank you! I have starrymom.com set up as a forward and use it sometimes for email since it’s a much shorter email address lol

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posted on August 27th 2012 at 8:44AM CDT

As a long time follower, I will always prefer OSN because it’s the address I’ve been typing in for YEARS! LOL! Though I understand that need for change- even if the content doesn’t change sometimes it just feels fresher when something changes… But I will always associate you with the OSN domain.

As far as trolls go, I can’t even fathom trying to deal with that. My skin is so thin, and I know that the best way to deal with idiots is to not give them the time of day, but I would IMMEDIATELY fly off the handle and chew them out. Actually, idiots, if you happen to be reading Sarah’s comments on this post here’s my opinion of you:
You need to find something better to do. If you don’t like something, nobody is forcing you to look at it, and your comments will not change what you see, you will merely hurt/piss off the person you’re being a jerk to. Nobody forced you to read something you didn’t like, and nobody forced you to come back after you were offended by something. If you’ve got nothing better to do than harass a person who is being peaceful and quiet, you’ve got bigger problems. You’re not helping anyone, and least of all yourself. Examine how you feel before you post some awful comment: you’re enraged, disgusted, annoyed and agitated, right? Well take a few deep breaths and calm down. Do you see what you’re doing to yourself? Do you see the stress you’ve put yourself under? You have a problem with your temper and you need to go outside and spend some time sitting under a tree. Calm down and examine yourself rather than taking out your idiotic rage on people who don’t deserve your anger.

The opinions herein do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Sarah, and all backlash shall be directed at me, LOL!

As you know, I have had more than 1 blog over the years, and I have just stopped asking you to link back to me because I can’t guarantee that my blog will still be there when someone clicks on the link, LOL! I get so frustrated with the lack of commenting and lack of interaction that I just think to myself “I must be too boring and uninteresting and nobody cares what I say” and I give up… I feel like I put so much into those blogs and got NOTHING out of it because if people were reading, I didn’t know about it because they weren’t commenting… It was like talking to myself… So although I do see it from the side of a reader who doesn’t necessarily comment on every post but I still enjoy the content, I also see it from the perspective of the blogger who feels like it’s all for naught. I have no advice, I guess it just is the way it is these days.

But you should know that I read every post (I’m sure you know that) and enjoy it all! Always have, always will!

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 10:30AM CDT

I can completely understand that the lack of interaction is just depressing! Talking to the void! I am lucky that I have a good core group of loyal readers and I’m sure that’s come with the amount of time I’ve been blogging at the same URL. I notice the void more with social media lol.

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posted on August 27th 2012 at 9:24AM CDT

First of all please don’t change your name. I love it. I see you and it fits who you are ansd what you are about. Second I love the flowers you post. They are beautiful and shows me who you are. You are a talented woman and a beautiful women. Second I have nominated you for the Sunshine Award. I love your blog by the way and I do answer you whe nyou as questions on facebook if I haven’t miss them.


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posted on August 30th 2012 at 10:31AM CDT

OH thank you!!!

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posted on August 27th 2012 at 9:54AM CDT

For got to tell you to goto http://cauldronawitchesjourney.blogspot.com/
and checkout your nomination. :)


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posted on August 27th 2012 at 10:28PM CDT

Not sure if my opinion counts, but I totally think you should keep this domain name! I remember it simply and can always look in from wherever I am to see what you’re up to. AND I LOVE your photos!! I know I don’t comment all the time, but I totally read your posts and try to always respond with a “like” on Facebook too.

Sometimes I get frustrated and run-down with my blog too…especially when I truly feel that no one except occasionally my mom (and some other random people) reads mine!! But when I get into writing a post, I really enjoy it and I try to think of it as sort of a “life” journal of sorts. I’m not sure how I would respond to any sort of super negative comment and I’m sad that people spend their time leaving then here – it’s just not necessary really.

I’ll follow you whatever you do…but that’s my 2 cents worth :)

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 8:58PM CDT

Your opinion totally counts! <3

Kristina Brooke
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posted on August 28th 2012 at 12:42AM CDT

Don’t change the name! It’s you and it won’t help get you out of your funk, trust me!!! As far as the blogging funk- I’ve been in it since 2008 so I can’t help you there. I just purchased a book of writing starters to see if that will help me write more…

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 9:01PM CDT

See I’m not looking to become a writer per say… the odds of a blogger becoming published and a “legit author” is actually quite rare! I just want to figure out my… mission statement perhaps?

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 9:11AM CDT

But what is progress? Why do you keep discounting what you’ve been doing for the past 12 years? You’re blogging. You’re doing it. Why don’t you see that what you’re doing is real and good? I wish you would.

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 9:03PM CDT

Low self-esteem lol!

Really though because I don’t see myself having the impact I thought I would when I first started or even 5 or 10 years into it. I do have a loyal group of readers and followers but I suppose all the blogging changes about niche and brand have gotten to me especially doing the work that I do.

I feel like how can I advise people what to do when I’m not progressing myself.

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posted on August 30th 2012 at 7:14PM CDT

I love your domain name. I really do. I think it suits you but that’s obviously just one girls opinion.

As for the blogging funk, I have no advice except do it if it makes you happy and if you enjoy it. People can be assholes. Don’t let them take your happiness away. Please don’t give them that power. Your readers would miss you, especially me, who is horrible at commenting. But you inspired me to be brave and tell you what I wanted to say. So for that, thanks.