I am just super stressed. ONE WEEK until my oldest goes back to school after three years of homeschooling / unschooling. Today is the dentist appointment, still need to buy him more khakis (school has a strict dress code), finish the rest of the paperwork (once it arrives in the mail), write up the exemption letter…

I’m not exactly known for my calm and relaxed personality. I am scared that the school won’t be a good fit, that the IDEA of school won’t match up with my son’s REALITY of school. That I’ll be an awful “school mom”.

So basically that’s all I can think about lately which is why I’ve been anti-social.

posted on August 15th 2011 at 1:11PM CDT

Remember that your emotions will affect him and how he deals with all this too.

Let go of that. You have done all you can to prepare him and no amount of fear and worry now is going to change how things go. Trust him to handle it and let him enjoy his first days of school.

posted on August 15th 2011 at 1:13PM CDT

Oh I’m not letting him see my internal freak out. He’s very positive about it all, thankfully!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 1:15PM CDT

I understand your anxiety. Remember how powerful it is that you are giving him the choice in his education. That is a wonderful gift. Also remember you are not bound by this, and neither is he. You can always change your course at any time. But you never know, this may allow him to shine! And that would be beautiful! Best wishes!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 5:18PM CDT

I keep reminding myself that it’s no big thing to pull him back out if we need to.

My husband thinks that DS1 will totally thrive in the structured environment… I hope he does!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 1:41PM CDT

Don’t worry, everything will go fine! :)
A lot of people used to believe I lacked quality in my formal education because I went to public school in England (which is way worse than in France), but hey, learnt to read at the age of four. Then I went to French university, which is by many regards worse off than most universities in the world until the Licence’s Degree, and I’m nearly done with two Master’s Degree in great fields. In my country, we face staggering unemployment and horrible job conditions. I’m moving abroad next year.

What’s my point?

In the end, it’s not the education that your son will receive that will define him… it’s what he does with that education to pursue whatever career and path in life he feels is best for him.

Hang on in there! :)

posted on August 15th 2011 at 5:21PM CDT

Thank you!!!

I try and remind myself that education doesn’t equal intelligence. I dropped out of high school (LONG story) and managed to get fairly good jobs AND I know I’m smart.

My siblings graduated HS, even took some college courses and hardly know how to use a computer, heh.

I’m rambling lol but I see what you mean!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 2:13PM CDT

D is very capable, he’ll do great!! He’s your kid, remember. :)


posted on August 15th 2011 at 5:22PM CDT

I like to think I spawned him ALL BY MYSELF!

Aww thank you! My husband said it was “moody” LOL!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 6:44PM CDT

Oh, I love the photo! Don’t listen to him.

posted on August 15th 2011 at 2:14PM CDT

I hope everything goes much smoother than your fears. I’m nervous enough myself, so I get what you’re saying. Thinking of you during this transition time!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 5:23PM CDT

It’s hard for me because I try SO HARD to be all zen in those kinds of situations (school, dentist, doctor) but end up talking WAY too much and feel like I’m 17 all over again heh.

My brain just doesn’t “feel” like I’m THE MOTHER now which is crazy!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 2:16PM CDT

I’m kinda sick to my stomach over sending my boys to school too. I’m just starting to grasp how seriously I’m going to have to take this – and how much of my non-existent time is going to be taken up with having a kid in school. Since I’m still in school (and this will be my busiest year yet) I’m going to have to find a way to get all my homework down while also helping the kids be prepared for their days at school, dealing with their teachers, and shuffling them back and forth. I’ll be battling law books while my boys need help with their three R’s. God forbid there are any real problems.

Can’t they just stay babies forever?

posted on August 15th 2011 at 5:28PM CDT

I remember when I was in school that my parents were really never involved. Which may or may not have contributed to me dropping out of HS (and my school guidance counselor telling me it’d probably be for the best).

We’ve redone the boys room and organized it so it’s calmer and has a desk/work area for him PLUS all sorts of supplies (in green which is his favorite color) like a stapler, calculator, etc.

He’s so far really positive which is fantastic and I’m doing my best to not let him see me freak out about it.

Oh yes, keep them as babies. I FLAT OUT REFUSE to believe my uber squish will be TWO YEARS OLD in less than two months! NOT POSSIBLE!

posted on August 15th 2011 at 6:47PM CDT

If they would just stay babies forever, maybe I wouldn’t be afraid to have one of my own…

Try not to fret. Half the time, I’ll get myself in a nervous tizzy about something and it will turn out to be no big deal, and I’ll wonder why I was so worried. Hopefully you’ll find out that you didn’t need to worry at all. :-)

posted on August 15th 2011 at 10:32PM CDT

I’ve always had high anxiety, I have the annoying ability to VISUALIZE and generally, I visualize the worst “what-if” situations.

I try to stay in check around the kids though!