My insomnia / nocturnal sleep has come back FULL FORCE so here I am at 3:30am on Friday the 13th, getting my jam on to Backstreet Boys, *Nsync, 98 Degrees, and 5ive (I am hardcore not only about glitter but boy bands as well!). So I figure it’s time for another life update! Although I know my photo posts and writing about making your blogs awesome are super duper exciting!
It’s been a crazy few weeks both positive and utterly confusing emotionally. The latest would be that I had to reach out to Danny’s biological father who we haven’t heard from in over three years now (and it was sporadic before that). I have to give him credit, when I sent him a facebook message that I needed to talk to him he responded quickly. See, Daniel wants to change his last name to match my husband’s last name. Which requires the signature on a ton of super confusing paperwork from not only my husband and myself but bio-dad as well.
It brought up a lot of memories, some good, some bad, and a lot of “wow, his life could have been MY life too” and it made me super grateful for all I have. Even though I struggle with this house, we OWN the house. I am fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom finally. I have a husband that tells me daily, ok more like hourly, that I’m gorgeous and sexy (even if I don’t believe it). I have the ability to help others with their blogs and I like to think I take some decent photos! We make enough money that we can enjoy a night of sushi every once in a while and go to the farmer’s market every weekend.
Not to say life is perfect and we don’t live paycheck to paycheck, because that’s life right now but it’s a far easier life than what I’m used to (we have central air conditioning! EPIC!).
When I told Dan that I spoke to his bio-father he really didn’t seem to care one way or the other. A simple, “Oh… well Tristan is running around naked AGAIN and is screaming that he’s pirate Hook and I think he’s going to take me down…”, was all I got out of him. And yes, Tristan IS a pirate with an eye patch, hook, and pirate hat. He also runs around naked all day long which is fine by me since it means he uses the potty rather than diapers which means WAY less diaper laundry for me!
Let’s see… what else has been going on… OH RIGHT… THIS!
Dear Bloggers: If you hire someone as awesome as @starrymom to design your site, who's not even charging what she's worth: PAY HER.
— Always With Her ✊? (@feministbreeder) July 9, 2012
That’s right! I designed a custom 2 column with 3 column footer WordPress theme with social media buttons for a client I had worked with a couple of times before to have her… not pay me. I completely took it personally after I was told, after putting my foot every so slightly down, that a money order was mailed to me… and here we are a bit over two weeks later and I can’t even get a response to my emails.
It’s made me evaluate WHY I even do it because we don’t need the money to live on. However, I like to think I have some decent skills and I truly LOVE helping people not only make their sites/blogs pretty on the OUTSIDE but to have very cool functionality as well. Plus, I like to make broken blogs WORK. Nothing drives me more crazy than seeing a site go down because of an easy to fix PHP error or due to a div that wasn’t closed properly. I do think I’ll take a break from design work this Autumn though and just stick to repairs / minor work / monthly duties.
School starts again at the end of August for Daniel. 5th grade. I’m trying really hard to start it off with a positive attitude but it’s difficult for me considering my views about the public school system. Going from two years of public school to two years of homeschooling and unschooling just to go BACK to public school… ah a struggle for sure for me. I hope that because we now have a “relationship” with his school that things will be smoother, that he will have a teacher that will be more focused and AWARE.
I’ve already bought all of his school supplies which is the only saving grace for me because I LOVE school supply season at Target. I just throw stuff in the cart with wild abandon! CRAYONS! PENS! GLUEEEE! FOLDERS!!!! NOTEBOOKS!!! *shriek*
I indeed bought 44 notebooks and over 30 folders. JUST TO HAVE. Not to mention a ton of crayons, markers, and colored pencils because it’s good to have around.
I still need to buy his entire school wardrobe though because his public school has a super strict dress code so I’m starting to look for sales but I worry that he’ll suddenly grow 5 inches between now and next month. He’s about 1 1/2″ shy of being 5′ tall already
I’ve posted some fairly long statuses on my facebook page so stop by over there before this post turns into some sort of novel!
Oh and yeah, I was featured on BlogHer which was a nice surprise!
How have YOU been lately? Tell me all about it!