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This year has been full of trials for sure. Yesterday my husband and I had to make the awful decision to give away our nine year old cat. Sadly he was aggressive towards our toddler (and only our toddler) and had health issues.

This just seems to be yet another negative pin stuck into the map of 2012. I am trying very hard to focus on the positives in life but it’s getting to be more and more difficult.

How do you stay positive when it seems like one negative thing happening after another?

posted on July 24th 2012 at 5:02PM CDT

I’ll let you know when I figure it out myself. Sigh! I thought last year was trying, but this year has been borderline evil.

The best things I can suggest are to avoid reading too much news (all negative), try to limit your contact (cyber or otherwise) with negative people, get plenty of sleep (I know, easier said than done), and try to do something every day that makes you happy — listen to a favorite song, read a book you love, watch a little TV… whatever makes you feel treated.

My dad would also recommend starting a gratitude journal, which reminds you of the good things in your life. (I did it for a while about 10 years ago and it seemed to help.) Here’s an essay where he talks about doing a gratitude journal: (I think he also discussed it somewhere else on his blog, but that’s the only one I could find quickly. I really do need to finish tagging all those entries!)

Also — I LOVE that second photo. It’s gorgeous.

Hang in there!

posted on July 24th 2012 at 5:54PM CDT

I completely avoid the news on the TV and newspapers. Can’t avoid it via FB or twitter though sadly.

A gratitude journal is a good idea!

OH thank you!! I thought the flowers were so pretty!

posted on July 24th 2012 at 5:46PM CDT

I set one simple goal each day, achieve that as early as possible, and bask in having done that. Usually it’s something along the lines of “Clean a 3′ by 2′ area of counter in the kitchen” or “Scrub the microwave”. Something that I’ll be able to SEE has been done that day … and maybe the next.

posted on July 24th 2012 at 6:01PM CDT

That’s a good idea!

posted on July 24th 2012 at 5:51PM CDT

I am so sorry that you had to give away your cat. I have two cats and love them both dearly. But the oldest one (Jedi) is my baby and I don’t know what I would do without him. However, you did what you had to do to protect your child and I hope that gives you some comfort.

posted on July 24th 2012 at 6:06PM CDT

I’ve had a lot of cats over the years and it’s just so hard no matter how they leave us… in the past 3 years we had a cat pass away from cancer, my husband’s very old dog pass away… now this. It’s so difficult!

Natalie P.
posted on July 24th 2012 at 5:54PM CDT

Let me try this again(not under someone else).

In the end, you cannot change the past, but you can change your perception of it.

When life piles up negatives on top of negatives, I do my best to change my reactions and my perceptions. It doesn’t change the bad, but it helps me emotionally handle it.

Today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten.

Dwelling on yesterday leads you to lose sight of today and tomorrow.

posted on July 24th 2012 at 6:02PM CDT

LOL I removed the other comments for you!

I dwell on the past and have massive anxiety for the future, makes it extremely difficult to live in the present!

posted on July 24th 2012 at 6:46PM CDT

So sorry to hear of your trials. It does seem they come in bunches! I also think that without these we wouldn’t fully recognize and appreciate the sweet days. Sorry, girl! Thinking of you.

And btw, your pics are gorgeous today! Another fab series!

posted on July 25th 2012 at 4:41PM CDT

Thank you so much! I know EVERY year has it struggles, it just seems to be coming fast and furious this year for some reason.

posted on July 24th 2012 at 7:29PM CDT

That sounds hard, but I suppose you have to focus on how much easier it will be with out the worry of negative interaction between kitty and toddler. I seem to constantly have to pull my self out of negative thoughts, when did it get like this? I take a deep breath, concentrate on inhaling a positive light feeling and exhaling worry. Tell my self this means something better is ready and waiting for me.

posted on July 24th 2012 at 7:30PM CDT

ALl that and I forgot to say how beautiful your photos are I like how you focus on your central image and blur out the rest. Yes!

Nicole P.
posted on July 24th 2012 at 10:08PM CDT

I try to think of all that I have to be grateful for. Or do something I can get tangible results: photography, baking. I’m sorry your down, but hopefully you get through it soon.

posted on August 1st 2012 at 4:27PM CDT

Thank you, I appreciate that!

posted on July 25th 2012 at 2:40PM CDT

I agree with whoever suggested the gratitude journal. Often, when I start to really feel down and depressed, I go through my photos and relive those memories. That helps me remember that there is good to be grateful for. Focusing on the good helps, but it’s super hard.


My neighbor has to give away his cat as well. :( He’s pretty bummed about it.

posted on August 1st 2012 at 4:31PM CDT

Surprisingly, everyone else is handling it a TON better than I am. Too sensitive heh.

I keep trying to focus on the little things right now and I think slowing my work load down a bit is going to help as well, I get WAYYYYYY too emotionally invested in my work stuff!

posted on July 28th 2012 at 7:59PM CDT

I’m so, so sorry. We lost our cat 2 years ago after a freak illness and I still feel heartbroken over it. I know it’s a different situation, but either way, it’s so hard to say goodbye to a pet that you’ve loved for so many years. But you did what you had to do to protect your child.

As for staying positive, I think sometimes it’s okay to let yourself be in a negative place. Because if you try to move on too quickly, sometimes you don’t really heal, you know? But always know that things will get better eventually…

posted on August 1st 2012 at 4:32PM CDT

I’ve always had cats since I was oh geez… 7? and had a few pass away… it’s SO ROUGH!

posted on July 28th 2012 at 9:11PM CDT

Oh so sorry to hear this!! You totally have to look after your son though!! And this is how you get through…blog about it so we can all send you some love!!!

posted on August 1st 2012 at 4:33PM CDT

Thank you so much!!!

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